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For some years now, we have been hearing murmurings, rumors as well as shouts demanding women's rights, equality and gender awareness.
Women, through demonstrations, the media and organisations dealing with the law, are demanding what they claim to be their rights. I don’t know from whom and who took their rights, and where were they when their right were being confiscated. I urge young Africans and especially girls to think big before inheriting this kind of activism.
We need to know what we are exactly fighting for and what we need - and after getting it, will it really satisfy our needs or endanger our life?
African culture is said to vandalise women's rights, but before I personally can agree with these allegations, I must first think clearly on what is being said -- if it sounds logical or just a matter of demoralising African culture or anything else!
In my tribe, men are said to be selfish and said to humiliate women by setting them aside from enjoying many delicious foods. We need to clearly analyse and see what we call humiliation. People need luxuries, so my tribal women were prevented from eating fatty foods. Now we claim that their rights are vandalised.
My simple research has shown me that women were set far from all fatty foods after these were proved to have caused many maternal deaths as well as child mortality. After stopping women from eating these foods, maternal deaths and child mortality decreased to the maximum.
The problem here can simply be that women were not allowed to eat these delicious foods from the time of marriage till death, since it strengthened women's health and lengthened women's lives -- even if they stopped it only during pregnancy -- for it led to fat infants.
According to my simple research, there are two tribes in my country which practiced this custom of forbidding women form participating in delicious foods, and both seem to have many more long-living women than men. Also, most of these women who can be regarded as our grandmothers’ mothers, gave many births safely with more children safely, without attending any clinics or labour wards.
Can we today come to claim that men vandalised women rights in these tribes or improved women's health? Think guys: meeting a woman over a hundred years old, living in a village -- she can read and write clearly in candle-light without glasses like you -- a young and energetic guy!
These findings led me to turn into a vegetarian for it is highly useful and proved so through our ancestors’ wisdom. My advice after this simple research is; instead of blaming African men on women, we need to respect and live their wisdom not to make women follow men, thinking that it's equality while killing their health.
Another thing I researched relating to African culture and wisdom was women doing far more work than men -- who sat drinking and waiting for food. In my tribe there was a division of labour. Women has to do all of the low-energy activities requiring a lot of brain power, while men had to perform tough ones. Fetching firewood, hunting, digging the slopes, chasing killer animals, grazing, felling trees, milking cows, all kinds of construction -- these jobs were for men.
Women had three main jobs: to raise up kids by being close to them (and that’s how African culture was passed on), to take care of the house and to cook for the family.
At first sight it might seem that women were disempowered by men, but here we need to consider a pregnant woman performing tough jobs, or look at the children raised by any other person apart from moms. Look at yourself: who do you love the most between your Dad and Mom?
Let us look and think clearly before joining this activism on thinking we are fighting for women's rights instead of joining them and living like they lived. That’s why I decided to become a vegetarian! But above all we should try to examine issues by looking at African culture, what our culture says before entertaining foreign ones!
“I love women. I love my mom, I love my sisters above all, I love my girlfriend, and am proud of being born a man from a woman’s womb.”